Hair, Running and my Dad

I know that might sound like an odd combination, but to me, it actually makes perfect sense.

One of the worst parts parts (for me) about chemo for breast cancer is that you know you’re going to lose your hair. I remember trying to be so brave about it, but the truth was always that, I was scared shitless that it would not grow back.  I have armed myself with wigs and scarves, and I knew I was never going to be brave enough to be “oh Naturelle”  I so admire many of my friends that have posted pictures of themselves bald.  I have never been so brave.  I do have the picture,  (I let Hailey take one picture, and one picture only, and she knows that picture is never to be seen unless I say so) and maybe next year I will post it, but right now, no, I just can’t.  

People tell me, bald is beautiful.  Like my scars, yes, they are my victory scars.  But there are days, , that I look in the mirror, and just want to vomit.  Two scars that are my reminders of what they took out of my body, one scar a reminder what they put in my body (my port) to make sure that I could take the drugs that would ensure I didn’t have to get anything else taken out.  My hair, it’s starting to peak through, but I’ll be covering my head for a long time. Now from radiation, one breast is much much darker and sensitive than the other. That will go away.  The fatigue will eventually go away.  Eventually my hair will grow back, but the scars will always be there.  A reminder that this happened.  I can never take life for granted again, innocence lost.

My hair is starting to grow back, slowly.  I actually have to shave it back a little as the first growth is chemo damaged, and radiation has slowed down the growth, so I will do that soon.  Actually Richard will.  He is much better at that than I.  He has had lots of practice!  The benefits of being married to a bald man  ūüôā  It’s going to be a long time before, I will “uncloak” my head.

I miss running.  The last time I really ran was in February before my surgery.  I got scared.  Scared I would fall and hurt myself.  I was never told I had to stop, but when I was told that I had to have chemo, and that chemo, and Herceptin affects the heart, it kind of freaked me out.  Plus I was tired a lot.  So I did lots of walking.  Now with radiation, putting on a run bra, and the friction of running, well let’s just say….it’s not a pretty picture.  And what would I wear on my head!  I know, these seem like excuses, but cancer plays major head games on you.

Today is the New York Marathon.  I had entry to run it today, but cancer took that away, and I had to defer.  I have run it before in 2009. I know I have had a different type of marathon to deal with this year, and that’s very true.  But it’s not the same.  Yesterday was my Dad’s birthday.  He would have been either 82 or 83.  Happy Birthday Daddy!!  I posted the picture below of him on my Facebook page.  Thank you for all your wonderful comments!  They are so appreciated.  

My Dad was a runner, and he was my inspiration to run, as was my Mom.  I thought they were both nuts for running marathons and half marathons.  

It wasn’t till many years after my Dad passed away that I took up running, and realized they were nuts! and how incredible the feeling of running was.  I miss my Dad everyday, and there is not a day that goes by that I don’t think about him.  When I ran the NY marathon in 2009, I ran it for my Dad.  You see when he got sick, he had entry to run NY for his 5th time, but he never got to run that race.  NY was my 5th marathon, and I completed his journey.  Richard, and my brothers and sister in law’s came with me to cheer me on and share the journey, and my Mom was with me via telephone.  



So that’s my Dad, crossing the NY finish line, and that’s me around the 10 mile mark in 2009.

Here’s my plan.  I will start running again, but probably not till the spring.  I still have a fear of sliding on the ice in the dark, and all I need is to break my leg…NOT.  I do have a treadmill, so maybe I will start there to be ready for the spring.  By spring, my hair will a grown a little more.  It grows about a half inch a month, although radiation does slow that down.  So, I will find some great run head covers, and get back out there.  I miss the social part of the run!  After all….what’s said on the run…stays on the run!  Kind of like Vegas!  

I have 8 more radiation sessions to go.  I’ve been working through all of it, as I did through my chemo.  I am starting to feel the fatigue.  On Friday I came home, went to bed at 7, and didn’t come downstairs till 11 yesterday morning. I’m guessing I was tired ūüėČ  I’m told I will start to feel like “me” again in January.  I’ve said it before, I’m not sure what me is anymore.  

As I re-read all this, I know I sound down, and I really don’t mean to.  But I promised, I would keep my blog real, and I guess “down” is how I’m feeling.  I share the ups and the downs.  I’m hoping for lots more “ups” as I get away from the everyday treatment.

It’s hard for my family and for those around me to really understand what’s going on inside me.  I look good on the outside.  I tell people I’m fine, doing well.  Hopefully soon, I really will be!





Half way through “Rads”

I know I haven’t posted in quite a while. ¬†I was actually having trouble logging in….figured out it was my laptop settings. ¬†Go figure!

I just re-blogged a post from my friend Stephanie, as I have had so many people ask me about what they could do to help. ¬†Stephanie said it all. ¬†She is quite a remarkable woman, and glad that I’ve met her. ¬†Her blog is amazing. ¬†

Anyway, I am half way through radiation, I’ve done 12 of 25!! ¬†So far so good. ¬†Other than having one very tanned armpit and side of my chest, I’m doing fine. ¬†No burns, or tenderness. I’m tired at the end of the day, but that’s more because it’s a long day. ¬†I go right from work to the hospital and then home. ¬†I chose to do my radiation, or “rads” as “those in treatment” call it, at Sunnybrook as it is literally 10 minutes from my house, and on my way home from work. ¬†I work in Markham, so trying to get downtown to Princess Margaret was going to be challenging everyday for 5 weeks. ¬†Even my Oncologist suggested I do what worked for me. ¬†

The question I get asked the most is…”How often do I go for Radiation” ¬†EVERYDAY! ¬†It’s a grind no doubt. ¬†I do get the weekend and holidays off…yippee! ¬†I will be done Nov 14th. ¬†I am told that the side effects really come after I’m done.

I’m not surprised as most of the side effects I’ve had from Chemo also came after I was done. ¬†I’m now 9 weeks done, and still having issues. ¬†The one thing that is difficult, is that most people assume that because I’m done, that I’m done. ¬†The truth is, that it is just a beginning again. ¬†When you have chemo, your whole body is affected, everything. ¬†Even my tear ducts were messed up for a while. ¬†I’ve been trying to find out more about detoxing but it’s hard to really understand it all. ¬†My friend has been helping me try and navigate what I need, but it’s going to be a long road to recovery.

I had to have a chat, or in this case and email with my boss. ¬†He has been wonderful as has everyone at work. ¬†I make sure I look good everyday when I go to work, and I think that’s actually worked against me….LOL! ¬†Go figure. ¬†Because I look good, everyone assumes, I am good, and the truth is that I’m far from good. ¬†But I will get there. ¬†I’ve been told that I should start to feel “like myself” again around January. ¬†Can’t remember what that feels like, but I suspect, that it will be different from what it was before this all started. ¬† I have worked through all my treatment, and taken off what I have needed to take off. ¬†It was the right decision for me on many levels, and I’ve been fortunate to work for a company that has been very understanding about what is going on. ¬†

Richard, Carly, Hailey, and myself along with Richard’s brother Corey, and his son Matthew, and the girls friends, Meg and Syd walked in the Run for the Cure. ¬†Why is it every walk we’ve done for breast cancer…it has rained!!??




I guess PINK is my colour from now on…good thing I like pink!

I’m still figuring out this blogging thing, and it seems that i am supposed to “tag” the subject, so I’m going to try and start doing that. ¬†Not entirely sure what that does, but we’ll see…

I have now finished 6 of my Herceptin treatments. ¬†I think there is 18 all together. ¬†I can’t remember. ¬†It means going to back to Chemo Daycare every 3 weeks at ¬†Princess Margaret, as this drug is administered through my port. ¬†I also get Mugascans every 3 months at Mt. Sinai to make sure my heart is functioning properly. ¬†Herceptin can affect the heart. ¬†So far I’m good, no issues there. ¬†It does mean lots of hospital visits.

You find out all this stuff, that really you never wanted to know. ¬†Every treatment has side effects. every treatment could lead to other issues, even other cancers, but we’re not going to go there. ¬†I chew so many mints to take away the bitter taste that has lingered from chemo (yes another side effect), that I’m sure I will end up with tooth decay when this is all said and done! One thing at a time!

I did find out that parking costs while in treatment can be written off on your taxes. ¬†(I never knew I could do that). The cost of parking is so crazy at the hospital. ¬†Rarely is it less than $20 a visit. ¬†Sometimes I take the subway down. ¬†I was able to get a weekly price at Sunnybrook while in radiation. ¬†So I’ve gone back and listed every time I’ve had to be at the hospital since this all began, and wow….does it ever add up quickly.

That’s it for now

Hugs everyone, Randy